Why Public School Would NEVER Work for Us

Sep 26, 2014

I can't speak for everyone, but public school would never work for my family. Here's why.

I can't speak for everyone, but I know this: Public school would NEVER work for my family. Here's why.

As I drove by an elementary school one day, the thought of sending my kids to school passed through my mind. Not that I want to send them. It was just a thought. 

I recalled the excitement of getting the kids ready for the first day of school. No sooner than I had that thought, I had another thought.

"We could never do the school thing." 

It simply wouldn't work for us. Here's why.

Early school mornings wouldn't work for my kids.

My children's broken circadian rhythms (body clocks) naturally cause them to sleep in the day and be up all night. That is their nature. Granted, we fight this natural inclination because it causes mood disorder issues.

We don't always win. OK, we rarely win. My kids would not make it to school on time - or even regularly - and I'd end up in court for attendance issues. It wouldn't be good. 

Late school days wouldn't work either.

Those ridiculously long school days would make my children miserable. In addition, if Lorelai is going to have mood problems, it's going to be in the afternoon. The afternoons are when I most closely watch her moods and food intake.

The thought of how school administration would handle this is a terrifying one.

At home, I am able to help her. I can tell what's coming and what needs to be done to help. They simply can't do that for her. 

  • They don't understand bipolar disorder
  • They don't know my child. 
  • It's impossible for teachers to learn about the subtleties of every child's illness.

I have children who have dyslexia and dyscalculia.

Schools do not accommodate for this particular problem. There are no systems in place to help them. I know because I've been down this road with my son. Dyslexia must be navigated, and schools simply have no time for that.

Then there's the dyscalculia. Not only are there no systems in place for that, but there is no way to fix it or even navigate it. What happens to the person stuck on 3rd grade math when he is 12 years old? 16? 

The schools flunk them, ignore them, or push them forward to the next grade, not expressing any concern for them. I begged for help for my son and they told me "We don't have help for that."

I can't fix the dyscalculia at home either. The difference is that I know what my daughter has. I know what she can and can't do. I don't prevent her from moving forward in her education based on that one problem. Like all homeschool subjects, I personalize her lessons to what she can do.

My teenager would be bullied in a public school setting.

Alexis is different. I don't say that in a negative way. She is who she is and I love that. However, the atmosphere of public school does not allow kids to be themselves. It demands conformity and I don't see her doing that.

She keeps her hair short (Japanese style), she's very into fandom/geek stuff, and has no interest in boys. Yes, she's 16, but she has strict morals about dating and marriage. Sure, she may think a boy is cute, but she doesn't get all silly about it. She's very balanced in her views and strong in her convictions. I think even peer pressure about dating wouldn't work on her. 

And I can imagine the names she would be called simply because she's not all about the boys. It would be ugly and hurtful.

Like all kids, my kids learn at their own pace.

My kids are like anyone else's kids. They have their own learning styles, strengths, and weaknesses. The difference for my kids is that they are homeschooled. I can adjust anything and everything for them. 

-If I have a 5th grader who is reading on a 3rd grade level, I can work with that child.
-If I have a 3rd grader who is doing 9th grade math, I can work with that child.
-If one child is working on various levels in various subjects, well I can work with that, too. 

The school can not offer that to my children. My kids would be required to fit into the box. My kids have never even seen the box! 

No, public school would certainly never work for my children. I'm OK with that. It's not their job to do what's best for my kids. 

That's my job.

I can't speak for everyone, but I know this: Public school would NEVER work for my family. Here's why. #homeschool #homeschooling

Happy Homeschooling!


  1. There's no way public school would work for my daughter either. She has DiGeorge Syndrome(Primary Immunodeficiency) She was never in public school, always homeschooled. That's the path my husband took and wanted her to take and I thank God for it everyday.

    1. I'm glad you've chosen that path for your children. All of my kids have been in school at one time or another. The youngest thought she wanted to go, but quickly realized she didn't. She wasn't there very long at all. All of my kids, ages 11-28, have been homeschooled.

  2. My girls are 14 and 16. Neither of them are into boys. I have had people blame me for it, saying I'm too strict,and depend too much on religion(despite the fact we aren't super religious but b/c its simply a homeschooler stereotype). I know they would be bullied in public school(my oldest was when she was in school. We started homeschooling in 2nd grade) Then it was because she despised rough play and had major sensory issues(tactile and auditory mostly) . She has generalized anxiety disorder and sensory processing disorder both diagnosed in 1st grade. Now she would probably be bullied for her disinterest in athletics(its a big thing in local high schools), her disinterest in boys, her anxiety and sensory issues, the fact she is being raised by a single dad and her passion of literature(high schools seem to care only about science and math these days and the kids passionate in those are practically heroes). My younger daughter would probably be bullied for her musical talent(she takes voice and piano lessons and sings in a choir, also looked down upon), the fact she has a single dad, her disinterest in boys and her fashion sense(very colorful and young looking). Some of this is only hypothetical but other of it is sadly true, learned from homeschool groups and potential friends. I like you, love my girls for who they are(and am actually quite happy in their disinterest in boys) but dislike the fact our girls would not be accepted by he mainstream world.

    1. I understand, Ryan. I really do. We have a lot of those issues here, sensory and such. Bravo to you, as a single dad, taking on all of your kids' challenges AND opting to homeschool. I'm a single mom. I know it's challenging for me at times. (Mostly the being the breadwinner part is the challenge.) It sounds like you're doing a great job!

    2. Thank you. It is hard raising kids and homeschooling and earning an income but its what we have to do. Ive been a single dad for 7 years now and as the kids have grown it has gotten easier.


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