I Am That Mom - The One You Can't Pigeonhole

Feb 29, 2016

pigeon on bird house

Reading this blog, you probably think you know a bit about the type of mom I am. (Fill in the blank here for whatever conclusion you've come to).

I used to run a mommy group online. It was a group about natural mothering (read: crunchy parenting). I'm sure those moms think they know the kind of mom I am. Crunchy, right? Total free-range mom!

My friends probably think I'm the no-nonsense mom. Conservative mom?

And my family. Surely they have assumptions (and opinions) on the way I do things. Too unconventional? 

They are all correct. And all incorrect.

The fact is: Only my kids really know the kind of mom I am.

I Am That Mom - The One You Can't Pigeonhole

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pigeon and birdhouse

I am a crunchy mom.

I am that homebirthing, cloth diapering, baby wearing, breastfeeding, co-sleeping, attachment parenting, all natural mom who looks toward nature and natural medicine.

I believe in old-fashioned, simple living. I believe that traditional ways are the best ways. I believe kids should be kids.

But I'm not a free-range mom.

While I am 100% crunchy granola mom, I am not a free-range parent.

I do believe in letting kids be kids. I also believe in letting nature take it's course. I also believe we're imperfect humans and kids are, by nature, imperfect. They can't be left to their own devices any more than adults can.

All humans need an authority. God, parents, or whoever else that authority or chain of command may be, we need rules and regulations.

I'm not insulting free-range parents. Don't get me wrong. No doubt each of them has their own style, just as each homeschooling family has theirs.

But judging by my free-range friends and acquaintances, I don't fit the mold.

My daughter says, "You're the laid back, fun mom. You're also the dont-gimme-no-lip-do-it-NOW mom."

She's right.

I'm traditional in my beliefs.

I believe in traditional family roles. I believe in no dating until adulthood (and only chaperoned at that time). Teens don't date. Husband working. Mom raising and homeschooling kids. Yadda, yadda, yadda.

But I am an independent, single mom.

I am a self-employed woman and have raised five kids on my own for the most part. 

I do not date. I don't need - or even want - a husband or a boyfriend. (File romantic relations under #aintnobodygottimefodat.) 

My situation is what it is and I'm happy being who I am.

I prefer screen-free living.

As stated, I prefer all things natural. The great outdoors is where they should be, soaking up all nature has to offer. TVs and other screens should not be the focus in their day. 

In fact, until 2012, they lived without screens. (see my screen-free living tips and ideas)

But screens are where I work.

I blog. I work as a social media manager and brand ambassador. To others, it may seem like I live on screens! 

But I don't. 
  • I don't use my phone while traveling around town on errands.
  • Except to post a photo to my Instagram, I don't use social media while doing activities with my kids. 
  • I don't use my phone while socializing with other people.
  • I have certain times/days I perform certain tasks online. Then I continue with my regular life.
It's about balance and not letting screens dominate my world. In other words, I'm paying attention to my kids and enjoying life in the moment rather than scrolling through my FB feed.

I love learning.

I enjoy soaking up all the information I can on any topic that sparks an interest. I can research a topic endlessly, taking breaks only to pee. 

Food? What's that!

Seriously, I can do the most tedious tasks without a break (I taught myself web design for no good reason other than I wanted to know.) 

There is no limit to the amount of time I will spend learning something.

But I am not a nerd. I'm a geek.

While I am a bit of a brainiac, I fall under the category of geek, not nerd.

Yes. There's a difference. 

Geek and Nerd. I could create a venn diagram, but I'm not nerdy enough to bother. Even though I share some traits of a nerd, I definitely lean toward the geek side of things.

Guess what I'm doing today. #geeks #whovians #ocalacomiccon
Posted by The Heart of Michelle on Saturday, June 28, 2014

I do enjoy learning, but I'm not all about academics. I research things madly, but only topics I'm interested in at the moment. 

That could be an academic subject or it could be dogs.

I love Star Trek. I stay on top of all the latest information about social media. I love Hunger Games and going to cons (like Khaotic Con, and AWACon). I'm a geek.

A few highlights from our geekend in Atlanta!#awacon #cosplayers
Posted by The Heart of Michelle on Sunday, September 27, 2015

Want to the know the difference? Check out this infographic.

I don't fit a mom type.

I could probably go on with this list of what I am but what I am not. The point is I can't be typed as a mom. I fit into plenty of categories, and yet I don't fit into any.

I'm like Claire Huxtable crossed with Lorelai Gilmore - with a dash of Roseanne.

How about you? Are you a certain type of mom?

Do you ever feel like that mom?
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